If you ask my mother-in-law, she'll tell you Facebook is evil. I suppose it can be. My father, seeing his children fight and become distant over things said on facebook, has observed that nothing good comes from it. To be honest, my life has changed due to Facebook; some family relationships have become estranged while others have become stronger. I've reconnected with long lost friends, forged new friendships and started Intuitive Dawnings.
As with most things in life, Facebook has a duality about it when it comes to relationships. It can make them or break them. It can shine a light on an already shaky foundation and it can be an instrument for tremendous support and encouragement.
Like in high school, there are the popular people - they get a zillion likes for the lamest of status updates and the 'not as popular' people who couldn't garner a like if their life depended on it. Facebook is the ultimate reality show where marketing skills and self hype are encouraged, even rewarded.
Facebook is simply a microcosm of the human experience. It's a mirror that reflects what we are and the lessons to be gained from that are priceless.
There are people who will wear their heart on their sleeve on social media, followed closely behind by those who ridicule people that 'air their dirty laundry'. There are those who proudly 'speak the truth' being challenged by another who's truth is different - those conversations rarely end well.
There is friending and unfriending. Liking and unliking. Tagging and untagging. With each action there is a vulnerability that carries with it the weight of rejection. It hurts to not be recognized, it hurts to be ignored, it hurts - even on Facebook.
So I suppose that maybe this social media mamoth can be quite the vehicle of disruption. But it can't create a schism that is not already there, even if undetected. It can't create a longing for an emotional connection that wasn't there to start with. Facebook is simply a microcosm of the human experience. It's a mirror that reflects what we are and the lessons to be gained from that are priceless.
I have been cut to the core over things brought about on Facebook. I've been unfriended by family members I thought were my friends. It cuts deep when the pretend world of self hype and promotion turns its back on you and you are left wondering why nobody seems to care. As with everything in life, it's a spiritual journey and there are always lessons to be learned.
For me, the lesson is not 'What is wrong with everyone else?" ~ although I wish it were that simple. The lesson for me is 'What am I supposed to learn from this? What hurts do I need to recognize and turn over to God for healing? What insecurities am I being led to own up to?" The lessons are powerful liberators, if we allow them to be.
To everything there is a season; the good, the bad and the ugly. They all play out on Facebook. Embrace the good, learn from the bad and pretty up the ugly! I'll be there, laughing, loving........ and learning.
I have to admit that it is hard for me to appreciate my victories. Once I achieve a goal I tend to feel somewhat 'bitter-sweet' about it. Although it is great to set and then meet a goal, there always seems to be an element of disappointment that accompanies my victories. Whether it's losing weight, saving money, or achieving a long sought after recognition, once the goal is attained, and the initial glee wears off, there is a realization that life still isn't everything you would hope it would be.
And then I came across this amazing video that put things into perspective for me. It is our IDEALS, or ideas of perfection, that we are constantly striving for in life. The perfect body, the perfect job, the perfect everything all rolled up in the 'ideal' life. The thing about ideals is that they can never be attained. Ideals are what we strive for, like a carrot being dangled in front of us. Ideals, like the horizon, can never actually be reached; but instead are there to keep us moving forward in a positive direction. So, if you are like me, once you've met a goal you erroneously compare where you are to your ideals, or where you want to be, instead of to where you were.
It's really those little ongoing shifts in perception that helps us achieve inner peace. For me, realizing that I will never attain my IDEALS, but rather their function is to keep me moving forward, was a huge AHA moment that relieved me of self-imposed pressures and allowed me to enjoy the little 'milestones' on my road - not to happiness - but of happiness.
Watch the video and let me know what you think. Do you hold yourself up to your ideals and feel frustrated that you can never attain them? Does shifting your perception of ideals from 'what should be' to 'what motivates me to keep moving forward' help you lighten the pressure enough for you to enjoy even the smallest of victories in your life? I hope so. We should all appreciate and celebrate every wonderfully positive step we take in life; for in doing so, we create a better life for ourselves and for those who are blessed enough to know us.
Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian Healing Method that is gaining particular favor in American culture. This prayerful meditation concentrates on releasing memories that show up as problems in our everyday lives The act itself is meant to cleanse the negative programming and memories of those who recite it.
The words of the prayer can be found in any particular order. At the end of this post I'll include a link to a ho'oponopono meditation that recites the prayer as "I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you". Whichever version you are drawn to; the prayer and mediation itself is a powerful tool in releasing painful memories that no longer serve you. I can 't count the number of times a memory has crept upon me to remind me of partiular embarrassments in my life. Meditating on the ho'oponopono prayer is an effective tool to transmute those negative memories. So the next time an embarrassing, or painful memory creeps up on you, close your eyes and repeat this prayer, and repeat again. And then if it creeps up on you again, repeat again. You, of all people, deserve your love; deserve your forgiveness, and you especially deserve your gratitude.
When you break down the prayer, line for line, you find a beautiful recitation to our relationship with God within ourselves.
With Ho'oponopono you are responsible and yet at the same time you are not to blame. Sending those thoughts of guilt, shame, inferiority, embarrassment, depression etc.... to the light to be transformed is a powerful gift that you can give yourself. Tiny steps do make the difference. Take this little step now; and every time a negative, painful or embarrassing memory creeps into your consciousness, repeat these words silently to yourself: "I love you, I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you."
'Ho'oponopono/ Morrhan's Prayer'
Spirit, Superconscious, please locate the origin of my feelings,
thoughts of (__________fill in the blank with your belief, feeling, thoughts________).
Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my being to this origin.
Analyze it and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.
Come through all generations of time and eternity.
Healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin.
Please do it according to God’s will until I am at the present. Filled with light and truth.
God’s peace and love, forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions.
Forgiveness of every person, place, circumstances and event which contributed to this, these feelings thoughts.
I recently talked with my dear friend, Crystal. from Intuitive Healing with Crystal about how everyone can take charge of their emotional health the way they do their physical health. Crystal has developed her own, very effective, technique to help her clients neutralize negative thoughts, emotions and experiences through a process called energy healing. I asked Crystal what people can do to take charge of their own 'energetic health' and here is a little bit of our conversation.
Q. What would you say is one of the most important steps a person can take toward emotional healing?
A. Take responsibility for yourself, including your emotional health. If you're not willing to feel your pain and go through the process of feeling, releasing and dissolving your emotions through the proper energy channels you will feel the pain another way - physically.
Q. What advice would you give to someone who is struggling with emotional or physical pain?
A. Seek out someone that can help you find the underlying causes. Be open to looking within for the answers, even if that sparks fear.
Crystal also emphasizes that all physical dis-ease comes from energy being blocked or imbalanced, "Even heredity counts because somewhere up the line stress caused that issue". Be willing to make the ego uncomfortable. "Don't justify your habits or blame others for how you feel. Learn what triggers you so you can release it."
Acknowledging negative emotions is also an essential part of the process. 'Write down everything, even if it's angry or 'bad'. Your feelings are your feelings and you have to recognize them to let them go." After you've written your feelings down and acknowledged them, Crystal recommends burning the page(s) as a way of releasing.
EFT tapping is another effective tool for achieving emotional health. The EFT Tapping method focuses on tapping energy meridians, or pathways in the body, to stimulate the bodies own healing network. This technique is effective for everything from anxiety and depression, to weight loss and manifesting wealth. There are countless youtube videos that can guide you through the tapping process for almost any condition or situation you are seeking relief from. Crystal recommends the EFT video below particularly for stress and anxiety.
Just like physical health our emotional health is something that should be attended to and nurtured throughout our lives. When we abuse or neglect our bodies, they eventually break down and so is the case with with our emotional or energetic health. We reap the rewards of self care; when it comes to our emotional health, lifting that fog of negative energy from our life is akin to a rebirth into a happier, more peaceful way of being.
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Addendum - I also highly recommend a wonderful tool called Quantum K Healing that Crystal turned me onto awhile ago. This link will take you to an extraordinary 20 minute meditative healing video: Quantum K Healing Experience
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Check out this extraordinary video highlighting the power of affirmations. Masaru Emoto's study shows the benefits of positive affirmations and the devastation of not only negative affirmations but also the powerful effects of neglect.
Affirmations are powerful, whether positive or negative. Think of all the energy you are putting out in the world with just your thoughts and words. Negligence is just as devastating to a souls growth potential. This includes self affirmations and self neglect. Be tender with your words because they really do create your world. If you are struggling with self-love or self -esteem, an excellent book to read is Louise Hay's book 'You Can Heal Your Life'. Click on the link below to check it out on Amazon, including all the wonderful reviews.
I believe Man’s Ego gets in the way of God’s love and our greatest lesson on earth is to destroy the Ego and promote the Love.
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