If you ask my mother-in-law, she'll tell you Facebook is evil. I suppose it can be. My father, seeing his children fight and become distant over things said on facebook, has observed that nothing good comes from it. To be honest, my life has changed due to Facebook; some family relationships have become estranged while others have become stronger. I've reconnected with long lost friends, forged new friendships and started Intuitive Dawnings.
As with most things in life, Facebook has a duality about it when it comes to relationships. It can make them or break them. It can shine a light on an already shaky foundation and it can be an instrument for tremendous support and encouragement.
Like in high school, there are the popular people - they get a zillion likes for the lamest of status updates and the 'not as popular' people who couldn't garner a like if their life depended on it. Facebook is the ultimate reality show where marketing skills and self hype are encouraged, even rewarded.
Facebook is simply a microcosm of the human experience. It's a mirror that reflects what we are and the lessons to be gained from that are priceless.
There are people who will wear their heart on their sleeve on social media, followed closely behind by those who ridicule people that 'air their dirty laundry'. There are those who proudly 'speak the truth' being challenged by another who's truth is different - those conversations rarely end well.
There is friending and unfriending. Liking and unliking. Tagging and untagging. With each action there is a vulnerability that carries with it the weight of rejection. It hurts to not be recognized, it hurts to be ignored, it hurts - even on Facebook.
So I suppose that maybe this social media mamoth can be quite the vehicle of disruption. But it can't create a schism that is not already there, even if undetected. It can't create a longing for an emotional connection that wasn't there to start with. Facebook is simply a microcosm of the human experience. It's a mirror that reflects what we are and the lessons to be gained from that are priceless.
I have been cut to the core over things brought about on Facebook. I've been unfriended by family members I thought were my friends. It cuts deep when the pretend world of self hype and promotion turns its back on you and you are left wondering why nobody seems to care. As with everything in life, it's a spiritual journey and there are always lessons to be learned.
For me, the lesson is not 'What is wrong with everyone else?" ~ although I wish it were that simple. The lesson for me is 'What am I supposed to learn from this? What hurts do I need to recognize and turn over to God for healing? What insecurities am I being led to own up to?" The lessons are powerful liberators, if we allow them to be.
To everything there is a season; the good, the bad and the ugly. They all play out on Facebook. Embrace the good, learn from the bad and pretty up the ugly! I'll be there, laughing, loving........ and learning.
I have to admit that it is hard for me to appreciate my victories. Once I achieve a goal I tend to feel somewhat 'bitter-sweet' about it. Although it is great to set and then meet a goal, there always seems to be an element of disappointment that accompanies my victories. Whether it's losing weight, saving money, or achieving a long sought after recognition, once the goal is attained, and the initial glee wears off, there is a realization that life still isn't everything you would hope it would be.
And then I came across this amazing video that put things into perspective for me. It is our IDEALS, or ideas of perfection, that we are constantly striving for in life. The perfect body, the perfect job, the perfect everything all rolled up in the 'ideal' life. The thing about ideals is that they can never be attained. Ideals are what we strive for, like a carrot being dangled in front of us. Ideals, like the horizon, can never actually be reached; but instead are there to keep us moving forward in a positive direction. So, if you are like me, once you've met a goal you erroneously compare where you are to your ideals, or where you want to be, instead of to where you were.
It's really those little ongoing shifts in perception that helps us achieve inner peace. For me, realizing that I will never attain my IDEALS, but rather their function is to keep me moving forward, was a huge AHA moment that relieved me of self-imposed pressures and allowed me to enjoy the little 'milestones' on my road - not to happiness - but of happiness.
Watch the video and let me know what you think. Do you hold yourself up to your ideals and feel frustrated that you can never attain them? Does shifting your perception of ideals from 'what should be' to 'what motivates me to keep moving forward' help you lighten the pressure enough for you to enjoy even the smallest of victories in your life? I hope so. We should all appreciate and celebrate every wonderfully positive step we take in life; for in doing so, we create a better life for ourselves and for those who are blessed enough to know us.
I believe Man’s Ego gets in the way of God’s love and our greatest lesson on earth is to destroy the Ego and promote the Love.
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