I have to admit that it is hard for me to appreciate my victories. Once I achieve a goal I tend to feel somewhat 'bitter-sweet' about it. Although it is great to set and then meet a goal, there always seems to be an element of disappointment that accompanies my victories. Whether it's losing weight, saving money, or achieving a long sought after recognition, once the goal is attained, and the initial glee wears off, there is a realization that life still isn't everything you would hope it would be.
And then I came across this amazing video that put things into perspective for me. It is our IDEALS, or ideas of perfection, that we are constantly striving for in life. The perfect body, the perfect job, the perfect everything all rolled up in the 'ideal' life. The thing about ideals is that they can never be attained. Ideals are what we strive for, like a carrot being dangled in front of us. Ideals, like the horizon, can never actually be reached; but instead are there to keep us moving forward in a positive direction. So, if you are like me, once you've met a goal you erroneously compare where you are to your ideals, or where you want to be, instead of to where you were.
It's really those little ongoing shifts in perception that helps us achieve inner peace. For me, realizing that I will never attain my IDEALS, but rather their function is to keep me moving forward, was a huge AHA moment that relieved me of self-imposed pressures and allowed me to enjoy the little 'milestones' on my road - not to happiness - but of happiness.
Watch the video and let me know what you think. Do you hold yourself up to your ideals and feel frustrated that you can never attain them? Does shifting your perception of ideals from 'what should be' to 'what motivates me to keep moving forward' help you lighten the pressure enough for you to enjoy even the smallest of victories in your life? I hope so. We should all appreciate and celebrate every wonderfully positive step we take in life; for in doing so, we create a better life for ourselves and for those who are blessed enough to know us.
I believe Man’s Ego gets in the way of God’s love and our greatest lesson on earth is to destroy the Ego and promote the Love.
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